11 Ways To Improve romance in the bedroom
Written By Michael Hanna
You probably know by now my views on books written on Feng Shui, some good but most are bad or inaccurate. Many books will recommend Mandarin ducks or a Dragon headed Tortoise for love or romance but which is correct? There is so much misinformation out there and this can cause problems for many people who are trying to get results whether for the bedroom, wealth, romance, or health. I have detailed below the facts without question, they will probably go against everything you have read or been taught but here goes. All the below applies to houses or apartments.
1: Fresh cut and dried flowers; actually this applies to any part of the home or office. This has always been a big no with nearly every book I have seen or been told about. Fresh cut flowers are beautiful and I love having all round the home (make sure water is kept clean and fresh), they are a very neutral energy and do no harm, the benefits are amazing though they can brighten any room and fill it with a scent that can transform any room for the better.
They are also a good test on how good the energy is your room, two weeks ago today it was our 23rd wedding anniversary and Michael had delivered a glorious bouquet of flowers, they actually look as good today as they did two weeks ago, this is because the energy in this room (dining room) is very good, don’t get me wrong I am not pretending that our whole house is perfect, far from it, every house will have good and bad areas, the secret is to find out where these good and bad areas are and use the better ones and avoid the bad ones.
Back to flowers, well actually dried flowers, this one always makes me laugh, with the exception of a few books every one will tell you DO NOT have dried flowers in your home or office, no exceptions, no dried flowers, pot pourri or anything that was once a living entity in a garden. Not in my opinion, think about what about what I have just said.
‘Nothing that was living’, so what about all your wooden furniture, doors, floorboards, kitchen cupboards, window frames, doorframes, wooden ornaments etc. etc. etc. I think you know what I am going to say next, how can dried flowers or fresh cut flowers be so bad when any item that is made of wood is exactly the same element, a table is dead wood the same as dried flowers, the wooden floorboards are identical to a dried flower arrangement in a redundant fireplace, long and short is dried flowers and fresh cut flowers are perfectly OK to have in a room as long as you are not allergic to them. If you do use them make sure they are kept clean and dust free. Please remember that this is only my view, there is nothing in the ancient Feng Shui books to say dried flowers are bad or good so a debate either way for or against them would never be settled. Not forgetting silk or cloth flowers, these are excellent to have in any part of the home.
2: Bed placements, if you visit this link 8mansions you will find information on which directions to sleep in depending on which aspect to your life you want to enhance, i.e. Sheng Chi for prosperity, Tien Yi for health, Nien Yien for relationship and Fu Wei for harmony. The most important thing to remember when sleeping is the crown (top) of your head must face the direction; many people get confused and point their feet in this direction, which would have their head facing their worst direction. Many of you have the Academy of Feng Shui software we sell that calculates amongst many other things your good and bad directions.
Another important consideration with bedroom arrangement is make sure you have your head supported by a solid wall directly behind you, if your best direction is south, do not have your bed at an angle in the room with your head behind a corner of wall or cupboard, this may seem like basic stuff but believe me we have visited many homes with the bed at all angles, it is great if you sleep in your best direction, however this is not always possible and do not worry about it, an example is Michael and I, we are opposite groups, I sleep in my best direction and he sleeps in his worst, unless we top and tail or sleep in different beds we will never achieve a good balance, as long as I sleep in my best direction that is all that matters, only kidding. Actually the most important thing is make sure you follow the annual and monthly flying stars this is far more important than directions you sleep.
3: En-suite bathroom, a real taboo in most books, we have been to homes that have the most magnificent en-suite bathrooms and the occupants do not even use it because of what they have read or been told, remember two thousand years ago homes did not have bathrooms or toilets inside the home, so why now is it bad Feng Shui? The only thing you have to remember is all bathrooms should have the door closed at all times and it is kept clean, other than that do not worry if your head is facing the bathroom wall, your luck will not be affected at all.
4: Try not to sleep with a beam or overhead cupboards over your head, if you have these you can place a piece of cloth under the beam so it takes away the negative effect or hang a crystal faceted sphere or a pair of bamboo flutes, I prefer the cloth as it is more effective and you can make it look nice with a piece of muslin cloth or similar.
5: Mirrors, now this is another misunderstood topic as again many homes we visit have all the mirrors covered in the bedroom. It is only a problem if the mirror faces your bed and you can see your face and upper body in the reflection. If the mirror looks sideways onto your bed it is not a problem, why are mirrors in bedrooms considered bad? Two schools of thought, the first belief is when you sleep at night your soul is supposed to leave your body and when it leaves the first thing it sees is a reflection of itself and gets startled and this is what causes nightmares and a restless sleep. The second is when you sleep your body recharges itself with fresh Ch’i and the negative Ch’i leaves your body, if there is a mirror facing you the negative Ch’i cannot leave you. This does not just apply to mirrors, anything reflective like a photo, painting, computer screen or metal surface. If you cannot move the mirror place a cloth over it when you sleep.
6: Do not sleep with your feet facing towards a door, this is known as the ‘coffin position’ and speaks for itself.
7: Do not sleep with doors (entrance not wardrobe doors) on either side of a bed; this is pretty rare, as we do not see many homes with more than one entrance door in a bedroom.
8: Should you have water in a bedroom? A hard question to answer because if a bedroom using the flying star method is conducive to water then you can use it but generally I would say no unless you had a professional consultation and advised otherwise. Do not worry about taking a glass of water to bed with you though, this is Yin water and has no effect.
9: Which colours should you use in a bedroom? Again I am going to go against all the books and give you the facts, a bedroom apart from the obvious is generally used for sleeping and because of this it is considered Yin (quiet) energy, most books will tell you to paint bright red (yang) or bright pinks to activate your relationships, again if you have had a consultation red may be a good colour to use as the Practitioner will know all your elements in that particular area but generally you use yin colours such as pastel shades and nothing too bright or loud, the same applies to bed covers and furniture.
10: Clearing your clutter is very important in the bedroom, wardrobes, under beds and behind doors get very stale and need to be cleared often to ensure good energy. Many book tell you not to have a bed with draws under, this is not always practical, and as long as you keep soft items like bedclothes, clothes or towels they are OK. Do not keep anything negative in the bedroom at all; if you have papers regarding a divorce or other legal problem either think about throwing them out (take legal advice) or storing in the loft or garage, this also applies to ornaments, paintings, photos or any gift that has been given to you by someone who you have negative feelings for.
11: Cures and enhancers to use in your bedroom. I have seen websites that sell pebbles to place under your pillow, red heart shaped pillows to a list of mantras to recite each night, all of which will enhance your romance. Here is a list of effective cures and enhancers and not gimmicky ones. A very powerful and traditional cure is using a Faceted Crystal Cluster where the 8 star is located for the month so if your bedroom is located in the west in September 2013, you would hand a faceted crystal cluster here.
If you are looking to conceive, sleep with your head pointing towards your Nien Yien direction. If you do not know your Nien Yien direction look on our website or take a look at the software that calculates it for you software you should also face your oven door towards Nien Yien. For the Xuan Kong experts there is more information in our professional series below.
Always use pairs in a bedroom, if you want to attract a new partner have two pillows side by side, a pair of Mandarin ducks, if you have a painting on the wall make sure it has two people in the picture, candle sticks should always be in pairs, the only time you should use a single item in the bedroom is if you use a Dragon headed Tortoise but make sure you have a piece of red ribbon in its mouth.
Where should you place your cures? Depending on which school you follow. As you know we only ever use traditional Feng Shui and follow Xuan Kong flying star, which gives powerful results. The standard and most talked about way is to place items like mandarin ducks or a Dragon headed Tortoise in the south-west of the bedroom or home, so if you wanted to attract new love activate the SW with romantic items like this. It is not something that I would do as the below formula is much more powerful and gets results.
If you want to use a more powerful cure or enhancer use the flying star method, in 2013 you would place a small water feature or a picture of water along with something coloured blue in the southeast of the home, this can also be the southeast of your bedroom (avoid water in bedroom unless you have been consulted) or the southeast of your entire home or both. This would activate the #4 wood star. You would also place another pair of ducks and Dragon headed Tortoise in the southeast of your bedroom.
To recap and clear any misunderstandings, you would stand in the middle of your home facing the front of house with a compass in hand and find the southeast, you would then go into your bedroom stand in the centre again facing the same direction (front) and find southeast of the bedroom and then place the cures.
You can also apply this rule to any flying star in the home or room, so if you wanted to activate the #8 wealth star for 2013 which is located in the northwest, you would place a three legged Toad, crystal sphere or a fire object or colour or anything to do with finances in the northwest of your home and west of your office or area that you work from.
“Don’t pass over the present while planning for the future.”